Interview in the Latest issue of cupcakeMAG

My friend Casi is the founder of cupcakeMAG and it was so much fun to be featured as a #momboss in the latest issue that just came out today! Head over to cupcakeMAG.com right here to read my entire interview as we chatted about mom life, school and the new baby! You might notice Beverley Mitchell and Christine Lakin on the cover -- who didn't watch 7th Heaven?

Here are a few of my favorite pictures from the shoot: 

Read my interview here!

Photos by Kim Flores 

Make-Up: Kristen Correia

Hair: Theresa Davis of True Expressions Glam Mom

Mug: Day 1 Creations

Raising My Tribe Tee: Little Adi & Co

How To Get My Look

I've gotten a lot of questions about my hair so I thought I'd get all the details from Nickole who helped me with my look during the live after show! You can follow her on Instagram, @jonesn2 and on Facebook she is Nickole Jones! I know so many of you asked on my snap how to get my look so here is just how she did it. 

1.  Wash and air dry hair add a mousse scrunching hair while drying. 

2. I suggest using Bumble and Bumble mousse. 

3. Once hair is completely dry wrap the hair around a 1-inch wand. 

4. I used T3 whirlwind trio 1inch attachment. 

5. Wrap the hair from the root to about 1 inch from the end.

6. Hold the end out from the iron so it doesn't curl. 

7. Follow that step on the entire head alternating directions( very important for fullness)

8. On the sides wrap the hair in a backward direction 

9. Give it a light spray with hairspray. I used Sebastian shaper in the white can. 

** alternating directions with your curls helps the hair to be fuller because all the curls don't become 1 curl

6 Favorite Quick Meals

You might not believe it but I love to cook! As a single Mom, I have to always think ahead of recipes that are quick, easy and kid-friendly. 

Right now I'm not really craving anything but I'm eating a lot of chicken and potatoes. I'm not a big breakfast person so when it comes to dinners, I love anything I can add cream cheese too and could never give up pasta. If you follow me on Pinterest here you will see I pin a lot of chicken recipes and easy go-to crock pot recipes too. I thought I'd kick off this week with sharing some of my favorites! Make sure you pin them for later too. They are all fast, easy and seriously the best with kids. 

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What's your favorite dinner recipe? I want to try it! Tell me in the comments below! 

My Must-Haves Scents from Scentsy

It's no secret that I am obsessed with Scentsy and if you know me, candles and Scentsy are my favorite things in my home. Over the last few weeks I've gotten a lot of questions about my favorite scents and how many I have so I wanted to share! 

I leave mine on almost 24/7. I change them out every two days but let me just say this is not normal. I just have an obsession! Most people don't change them out that often! I have them everywhere too. I have 3 downstairs and one in every room and bathroom upstairs!

As for my favorite scents, it's hard to choose! But I seriously love the ones pictured below in my home. Cashmere, Sugar Cookie, Cherry Vanilla and Cedar Cider are just some of my favorites. You can grab them all on my Scentsy page here!

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Do you have any favorite Scentsy scents? Tell me in the comments! They have some of the cutest warmers out now too. Head over to my page and check them out! Make sure you check out the cute warmers too. Read it now, pin it for later! 

What You Don't Know About Me

While you think you might know me from the few minutes you see of me on MTV each week, I thought I would share with you some things you might not know about me!  From pet peeves to all about cream cheese! Here we go....

1.) I read texts messages and I forget to reply.

2.) I hate talking on the phone. Please, just text me.

3.)  I add cream cheese to any recipe I can.

4.) First thing in the morning when my feet touch the floor I pee and brush my teeth.

5.) My favorite Spring drink at Starbucks is the pink drink - strawberry acai with coconut milk

6.) My biggest pet peeves! When people leave shit in the middle of the floor. When people don't keep their word on things they say they're going to do

7.) I don't wear a regular bra. I wear or a sports bra or a cami with a built in bra. I hate bras!

8.) I have too many sneakers to count. Too many sneakers!

9.) My first car was a 2001 Nissan Sentra.

10.) I'm a ranch girl, I hate honey mustard.

11.) If money and a job were no object, I would live in Hawaii with my kids.

12.) If I could only shop in one store for the rest of my life it would be Target.

What else do you want to know? Tell me in the comments!

My Pretty New Space

A few weeks ago my friend Casi from cupcakeMAG came over and we had a painting party. She's been helping me choose colors for my house and I am so excited to slowly be pulling it all together. I know everyone was dying to know all of the details on my living room so I wanted to share them with you. For anything in my house, I always shop Target, Wayfair, Pier 1, TJ Maxx or Marshalls. I usually just pick up things that I love!

Here are all the details on the living room:

Paint color in my living room and kitchen: Sherwin Williams Sea Salt

Couch and ottoman: Ashley Furniture

Fan: Lowes

Gallery wall framed art: personal photos and the others are from TJ Maxx

Fake Fig Tree in the corner: Pier 1

Curtains: Wayfair

Pillows: So Vintage Chic (the pineapple one you all were asking about!) and the faux fur ones are from Lowes

Here are some fun behind the scenes pictures. It's so great to see it all come together and be finished!

We haven't hung the ruler but Casi's heading down for a fun photo shoot on Friday so I can't wait to get it up. The ruler for the boys was from White Loft and it's so cute! As far as my candle warmers and candles all around my home I stock up from Scentsy! You can check out my page here and grab some of my favorites. Next up! My office and dining room.....and of course, the nursery. Casi already has big plans for re-designing all of my rooms and I can't wait!

Exciting News!

If you are reading this you most likely saw my post on Instagram about my EXCITING NEWS!! As many of you know my latest book Hustle & Heart is packed with not just personal advice but experiences for those making through life's challenges in not just mix of hardship but motivational messages. If you've followed me since 16 & Pregnant you know the challenges I've been faced with through the years. Hustle & Heart is a book I wrote for people just like me that have been through marriage challenges, career challenges, sexual assault, bullying, motherhood and more. It's a reminder that with a little bit of hustle and heart, you can survive anything. If you haven't had a chance to read the book please do. I got so many amazing comments the other night when I posted about so I wanted to say thank you for the support but also answer a few questions fans were asking. Before you leave a mean comment on my social media take a second to read it. It's still available for under $10 on Amazon.com and you can purchase the book and coloring book for under $20 -- total! You can buy it by clicking HERE. If you are looking to find my past books you can check out the Author page on Amazon HERE too! Make sure you stay tuned for upcoming events like signings for Hustle & Heart - maybe even a fun book party too!

In the meantime, I thank you for your continued support! For everyone who has purchased my books and followed me through the years. Before you take judgment on me please realize that this is my life and I am 100% happy; my heart is full. If you don't know me why don't you take some time to read my books which is just a peek into my life instead of judging me by the edits made on television. Just because of my decision this doesn't mean I won't graduate and my plans have changed. I still will continue to focus on school with my graduation in May, my brand, and my books.  If you've googled my name the past few weeks, the speculation of so many things have surfaced - no one knows what's true, what's false and what really goes on in my day-to-day life. Since everyone can't wait for the confirmation;  here it goes.

I am pregnant. I'm sad that I should have known that people in my life would sell me out before I was ready. Like any normal person, I want it to be a happy time. I wanted this to be a private time so I could be excited while not getting chased by paparazzi and bothered with crazy headlines. Please know this was a choice I made, I already know some won't agree but I've been showered with support by the ones I love since I found out. Why did I wait? I've had a lot of health complications leading up to this pregnancy and I was not ready to release such private information on my own just yet being that I am so high risk with this pregnancy. I didn't want to announce just to have another miscarriage and suffer through another grief.

Of course, I was filmed on the show saying I didn't want any more kids but I'm pregnant again. I know so many will have comments on this but here's the thing -- I didn't want to bring another child into a failing marriage. Shortly after I started having complications, the option of having more kids was almost taken away from me. When I started thinking long and hard, I knew I wanted more. This was the choice I made. This is the baby I thought I wasn't sure if I could have. I know this isn't an ideal situation but I know everything will be okay. And like I say in my book -- with a little bit of hustle and heart, I can and I will survive anything. Having another child is something I am so happy about and I just can't wait. My boys are so excited, those who love me are so excited, and I hope that everyone can just be happy for me during this time.

Does Jo know? 

Jo has been aware of things for a while now. He was one of the first to know because we can have adult conversations about things while he respectfully gives his opinions. We always share concerns and move forward.

Does Javi know?

Unfortunately, I never got to have a conversation with him about it.

Boy or girl?

While I'm almost half-way there, I've decided to wait until the summer to find out!

This is an exciting time for me and the ones closest to me. Tweet me baby name suggestions!

baby book: Polka Dot Print Shop  // baby blanket: Addison Belle

Dearest Haters

I've been silent for some time about all of the "talk" about me. Some of the comments on my social have been so horrible. It's frustrating to know so many are judging me by the 12 minutes they see me on television. There are two sides to every story. I refuse to sit here and bash the other person.  This isn't high school. Please don't judge me and bash me from the other side of your computer. You only know so much about my life and you don't know the whole story. Please stop bullying me over something you know nothing about.

  • What you don't see? You don't see me at school. You don't see me staying up late doing my homework. You don't hear about Isaac making high honor roll. You don't see me getting the boys in the car, getting them to school and then I head to school for the day. You don't see me coming home, getting their homework done, cooking dinner, doing baths and then working late on homework. You don't see all of the behind the scenes, everyday chaos in between the few minutes they show on the show.
  • An agreement was made, we are divorced. It's hard enough dealing with it but it's harder dealing with in the public eye. I will not sit here and go back and fourth.There are always two sides to every story.
  • I'm a Mom. I'm a Mom to two boys who I'm trying to raise the best I can. I'm a Mom working on my brand and business and I am so excited for the things to come in 2017. I'm a Mom going to school full-time. In May I'll be graduating with my Bachelor's degree is that ever discussed? No. Only the "bad" things I do and how "horrible" I treat people and what a terrible Mom I am. 
  • My boys are fine. They are happy. They are smiling. They are so beyond loved and they are just perfect.
  • I am fine with taking the bullets. I'm not airing anyone's dirty laundry and being spiteful because it doesn't benefit anyone. I believe in karma....what goes around, comes around.
  • Why don't I quit the show? The burning question. Because it's my job. It's what supports my family. It's what gives me income until I finish school. Do I think my time on the show is coming to an end? Yes. But until that time, I have to be on the show because it's my job and what pays my bills and gives me a house for my boys.

Here I am again setting the record straight. If you don't read my last post on this topic do yourself a favor and read it now right here. Please do not judge me. Before you leave a comment on my social media or tweet me remind yourself how would you feel if someone wrote that about you? You really don't know me. You aren't with me 24/7. You have no idea what I go through and deal with on a day to day basis so please don't judge me. I'm sure many of you would be really surprised if you knew all everything and I am sure all of those things will come out in time.

Now for those who have supported me I want to say THANK YOU. Thank you for understanding that I am a single Mom juggling it all. Thank you for supporting me. Thank you for believing me and letting me be an inspiration for you. Thank you for understanding how tv works. Thank you for understanding that you DO NOT see everything. Thank you for watching the show. Thank you for allowing me to be part of your lives. Thank you for the comments, tweets and DM's. I read them all and I'm so thankful for the support. I wish I could reply to them all but please know how much I appreciate them.

I hope everyone can read this and understand that I am HUMAN. I am a Mom. I am someone juggling it all. I am just like you.

"Be kind, for everyone you meet is fighting a hard battle."

Motherhood and Managing College

Throughout my childhood, school was always important to me. Even through my most trying times I could count on school to get me through my days and keep my mind on something positive. But as life happens and things change I wasn't able to stay on track and get my bachelor's degree on time. A lot of time and two kids later I found myself back in school. I love my kids to pieces but there's just something about talking to 2 kids under 5 all day that got me thinking about what I could do for myself again.After careful consideration, I decided to get back into school. Partially because I was bored, partially because I have an addiction to staying busy at all times and kicking myself for it later... but mainly because I want to beat the statistics for teen moms and show my kids a better life. So, what does a typical day look like with two kids and a full load of college classes? Here's the play by play:

   7 am wake up, dress the boys and brush teeth by 7:30, Get them to the table to eat breakfast, while they're eating, I quickly get myself put together so that by time I come down I get shoes and coats put on to get Isaac, 5, off to school by 9 am. While we're gone, my younger son stays with family until I get out of school around 1 pm. When I get home, both boys have to eat lunch, we play, take my 3 fur babies out, yes, 3 dogs. In between these activities are straightening up my house, any appts we have, and trying to squeeze in a workout at cross fit before dinner. Dinner is probably between 6-7 and the boys have to get baths around 7:30-8 pm and then put to bed. Once both the boys are in bed I thoroughly clean up the messes we made throughout the day and then sit down to do any assignments I need to for school. Mondays and Wednesdays my older son has swimming and every other week I drive to New Jersey to take my son to his dad's house. Oh, and every 2 weeks add an 8 person film crew to my life.

Full house + every day stressors + schedules + occasional filming = short temper fuse.

Luckily, I have amazing people in my life that support me going back to school and will do whatever they can to help me finish. Last semester, my marriage started to fail while I continued my day to day struggles with staying on schedules, the boys and maintaining my 3.92 GPA.

Setting the Record Straight

I'm breaking my silence and addressing all of the rumors that have been swirling around since I announced my divorce months ago. A marriage should be between two people,however, since others feel the need to comment on it constantly with false statements I'm setting the record straight.

-There was nothing specific or dramatic that ended my marriage. There were problems for a very long time, things that we swept under the rug to try to keep our family together. What happened? I woke up. I decided my boys deserved to see their mom happy and witness a relationship based on love, not tolerance. If I couldn't give them that example of a marriage, I'd rather wait until I could and focus on becoming the best mother and person I could be in the meantime.

-My MISCARRIAGE, let me repeat that, MISCARRIAGE (since some apparently know the inner workings of my uterus and said I had an abortion) just added to the problems in my marriage/soon to be divorce when I had no support through the grieving process. I had blame, anger, and shame but no support.

- I filed for divorce in December, I have been separated since then. You cannot have a divorce finalized when someone is deployed, but we were separated... Back and forth at times. But we have both seen other people during this time. Were there times we contemplated getting back together? Hell yes. I wanted to keep my family together. At the end of the day, and I can only speak for myself, I did not change my behaviors or my mind on what I wanted/want to do in life. I felt trapped in my own life for a long time. There was also too much outside involvement in the marriage since the beginning, and it has continued up until this point. I made the decision to continue with the divorce.

- Have I been dating? Yeah... Is it ultimately my decision if I do? Yes! I'm separated, pending divorce, it's not a crime to date. What's okay for one has to be okay for the other and that's all I'll say about that.

These "friends" I had that decided to turn their back on me, that's okay. But people who live in glass houses shouldn't throw stones. They jumped ship and do and say what they say... I didn't lose anything besides fake relationships in the process, so I think it worked out pretty well.

Unfortunately, this was a marriage that ended but there are still children involved. I have kept my mouth shut because I didn't think we needed to involve more people during this sensitive time... And it's the father of my child so I never want to bash him. I would never want my children to think poorly of the person I was once married to. I can't control what the other side does, but it was time to get my truth out there... But also stay positive and vague about it.

Sick Days & Single Moms

It's been discussed before, both in interviews and on Teen Mom 2, that a lot of us on the show had little to no sex education. That being said, it's no surprise that nobody ever talked about what it would be like as a single mother (could apply to military wives too). Let me back track a little... I can only speak for myself when I say that when I found out I was pregnant, though I was completely embarrassed - I thought that I knew everything would be fine and as soon as the baby was born we would have this house of our own with a white picket fence... But the reality is that rarely ever happens for teens. I never thought about what I would do if baby was sick and no one was around... or baby falls asleep in the car and I need to go inside to pay for gas at the gas station... or if.... all the what ifs, the major what ifs that sound crazy to read but actually matter. What young mother who was probably at school or work all day, is already exhausted from life wants to wake up their napping child for 2 mins to run inside to pay for freakin gas? It sounds crazy, but I'm so serious.

Anyhow... 6 years later Javi is deployed so I'm essentially a single mother again. Nobody ever made me think about what I would do if I'm by myself and I have a sick child in the middle of the night. Obviously, as a mother we figure it out. But, even 24 years old I panicked for a minute when Lincoln started throwing up in the middle of the night and I had Isaac sound asleep in the other room. I had pedialyte or gatorade and I can't just pick up and leave to get it. I would if I had to... but you get what I mean.

I love my kids/being a mom, even when they're sick and I'm playing mom AND dad. I just wanted to keep the message going for the young viewers of Teen Mom 2 that teen pregnancy is no joke... even into your twenties, make sure you're ready and have a plan for tough situations like mine last night - Luckily I have (finally) made some friends (who don't have kids) and didn't mind running out to the store for me so late.

I think if someone spoke to me about these things, not just the general statistics but actual personal experiences, things would be different. I obviously wouldn't change it now, but I'm hoping to make the next girl think about it a little more.

Happy Monday! An all new Teen Mom 2 airs tonight @ 10 pm EST. on MTV

March Madness & NOT Basketball.

March is always a busy month, Spring comes... or it's supposed to... spring break also comes but feels like goes so soon! This year my husband and I took our kids to Disney world for our first visit. Which was amazing! I turned 23 in Disney World and may have enjoyed the trip more than my 5 and 1 year olds. They all had a blast and got to meet characters and just do whatever we wanted.When we got home, we had to face the dread of unpacking and getting back to reality. This meant 3 projects in the month of March, blogging for another class, 1 test a week for business class, personal life and everything else in the world. But we are making it work and I'm working hard to continue my dean's list streak... Side thought, I'm learning way more in my African American history class than anticipated! So that realization makes it all seem worth it.

Tonight is my 5 year old's art show and I will leave class early to be there... His dad said he forgot and can't make it so I need to be there for the both of us to take pix for him.

In the midst of all of this we are in the process of buying a new home.

Anyway, I am so excited to say, I'm ready for the semester to be over and summer to be here!

Happy Monday! :)

First Q&A of 2016

Q: Is it ever hard for Isaac and Lincoln to get recognized in public?A: This doesn't really happen as often as you'd think... or if it does not many people say anything. The occasions it does happen, it really depends on the day. Sometimes Isaac will talk and sometimes both the boys get really shy.

Q: Who are you closest with out of the Teen Mom 2 girls? A: My girl Chelsea!

Q: Is it true that Jenelle has more mugshots than you? A: I don't have any mug shots.

Q: Do you ever think about the what ifs about Jo? What if he didn't move on? What if Jo didn't move on? What if you didn't move on? A: Honestly, I'm good where I'm at. This doesn't ever cross my mind. If it did, I would have to imagine my life without Lincoln... because if Jo and I never split I wouldn't have had him.

Q: Did you use diet pills? A: No, I never used diet pills.

Q: Do you ever think you'll have short hair? A: I think about this all the time. I would love a cut like Khloe K's short hair but I don't think it would look as good on me. I would need a glam squad to come style it, lol!!

Q: When does Javi come back? A: I don't have specifics on that, but we have a few months yet.

Q: Are you close with the camera crew? How do Isaac and Lincoln like filming? A: I'm close with some of the crew! I get along with everyone though, they're kind of like distant family I didn't meet until I was 17. Haha Isaac and Lincoln have their days where they love to film and show off and then they also have their days where they want nothing to do with it.

Q: What did you struggle with most with your miscarriage? A: I'm not really sure how to answer this without a huge reply, so I'll let it play out on the show... and maybe do a separate post later on.

Q: When are you coming to Aust? A: Is this Australia? I would love to go within the next 5 years. I have a friend who lives there and it would be awesome to see her and do all the tourist stuff.

Q: Would you have another baby with Javi or adopt? A: I think we've had conversations about both. A third baby is a possibility in the future! But for now, I'm happy where I'm at.

Q: Was surgery worth the pain? A: For me, it was.

Q: Do you think you'll ever try for another baby and does it make you nervous Javi will get deployed again after? A: I think at some point in the future! But it doesn't make me nervous about him deployment. This is our second time with him being gone 6 months+. It's hard when he leaves but I do get into a routine and I'm good. The hardest part is loneliness... I don't have friends in DE where I can call them last min to grab lunch and have adult conversation like I do back home. Most of my friends here have kids and are busy too. So we will see how everything plays out!

Q: Will there come a time where you and Chelsea may stop doing the show? A: I think this is always a possibility depending on the circumstances.

Q: Can we be BFFs? A: LOL! Twitter BFFs!

For now, that's all I have! I'll finish when I get the kids to bed!

October Festivities

Fall is one of my favorite seasons and October is definitely a fun month. This past weekend, friends came to visit and we went to the pumpkin patch and did hay rides, we picked out pumpkins... and then yesterday we went to the zoo with some friends. Everything sounds great but the whole time I couldn't help but feel guilty for doing these things with Isaac not being part of it all. When I went to pick Isaac up from his dad's on Sunday he asked where Lincoln got his face painted. When Javi told him, he asked if he could go too. It's such a touchy subject for me because I try so hard to explain to him that he has to go to his dad's and he will have so much fun there. But it breaks my heart that he feels like he is missing out. We've tried only planning things when we know Isaac is with us for the weekend but it just never works out. And on the other hand, that's almost unfair to Lincoln. In a perfect world, Jo and I would just constantly trade when we have stuff going on, but again, it's just not realistic. Anyway, that was just my thoughts on this weekend. It was all so much fun but there was a little something on my mind.

I Won't Get Into Religion, But

I've never been a religious person. My absolutely perfect family (sarcasm) never went to church or talked about religion. That being said, I have never believed in a higher power, but rather I've always just believed in myself... Anyway, my husband grew up Catholic - including, but not limited to, catholic school, church, being baptized, the whole works. Religion and church is also very important to many of our friends too... So some really awesome people came into our lives within the last year that Javi and I adore and look up to so much - they invited us to church and without hesitation, Kail, the atheist decided, why not? Javi was of course into it and well, what's the harm? The first time about a month ago, I got a good message out of it. If nothing else, be the best person you can be and try to do what you can for those less fortunate around you.

The second time was this past Sunday. And for some reason it made me so emotional. Not so much the God/Jesus stuff but the actual service and what the pastor was saying - he talked about the book of Malachai and Matthew and how when things are going wrong it causes the good to become foggy and hard to see. I'm not saying that I'm a believer now, but can one go to church because they want to hear about how to be a better person overall? Sunday made me start looking at my life and want to make sure I'm always putting my best foot forward, let the negative things in life be motivators, help people around me. Life isn't always about material things, and when things are going wrong, remember to appreciate all that's healthy and right.

I know that I don't need to believe in God to be a great person but part of me wants to bring my kids up in church and for church to help me raise them to be good boys and then men always having a good heart and staying thankful and appreciative... I'm not sure where to go with this. I guess it's why they call it blogging.

Insert Sad Title Here

I typed this on the way home yesterday and am just able to post now.I took Isaac to his dad's today, on the car ride home it was so quiet. Sure the radio was on and I could hear cars driving on either side of me, but it was quiet. I couldn't help but feel an emptiness knowing I was going to go home to my other son and my husband  and have a whole piece of me not there with us. It's hard to know that one of my sons will have his parents together - at Lincoln's age in Isaac's life his dad and I had already been split for months. Javi and I have been through more in our 3 years than Jo and I ever went through so why is it that we (Javi and I) work through all of it but I didn't want to work it out with Jo? And no, I'm not still in love with him. These are just the thought provoking questions I found myself asking when I started thinking about my kids lives (in the future) and how differently they will live. I'm so afraid of Isaac growing up and believing it was his fault or that he's different than Lincoln, etc. and even different than his new sibling from Jo and Jo's girlfriend. There's no doubt in my mind when I say that I will do the best I can for him... The best THAT I CAN, even if my best doesn't meet someone else's standards of best.... We will all do our best. But I can't help but to hurt for him. I hurt that I couldn't work it out with his dad and I hurt that he will watch his siblings grow up with both their parents in the same house. And I hurt when he's at his dad's even though I know it's good for him. I just can't help the hurt.