1. How can you leave your kids and travel all over without them?
This has to be one of my most frequently asked questions and it’s so frustrating and annoying at times. I have 50/50 custody for Isaac and Lincoln, so if/when I choose to travel, it’s while they are with their fathers anyway. Of course, there are other things that come up when I have my kids and luckily, their dads and I will switch days/weeks. I lose no time with them. Anytime something comes up for Javi or Jo, I work with them as well. That’s part of co-parenting. When it looks to some people that I’ve “abandoned” my kids for “yet another vacation”, that trip was either planned long in advance and weeks have been switched off, or one of the dads needed to switch weeks and I booked a trip last minute. Don’t be so quick to judge what you see on social media.
2. How is your relationship with Jo and Javi’s family?
I talk to them if/when I see them and that’s the extent of my relationship with them. I appreciate everything they do for my sons and I’m glad my sons are able to grow up knowing them. There’s no reason for a close relationship between them and myself.
3. Have you watched Teen Mom Young and Pregnant? If so, what are your thoughts?
I’ve seen a few minutes here and there, I really only watch kids shows, the ID channel and Discovery when I’m at home. I don’t have any thoughts on the show that anyone would be interested in, lol.
4. Are you straight or bisexual?
I’m just me. I don’t know why I need to explain my sexual preference to anyone. I don’t go around asking anyone what his or her sexual preference is, that’s for sure lol. I love who I love and that’s all there is to it.
5. Why did you not become a dental hygienist?
During the time I was in school for this I was working at Sports Authority as well as a restaurant at night to make ends meet. And I quickly realized I didn’t have the time, money or resources to go to the extra tutoring that I needed, so I ultimately gave up that dream.
6. Out of all the obstacles in life you’ve overcome, which was the toughest? Why? How did you get through it?
When I think about everything I’ve been through, two things instantly come to mind. First was moving on from living with Jo and his family, and into an apartment alone with Isaac. The whole struggle of no longer being a “family” and understanding my feelings that went into all of those decisions was really tough. I really struggled with the realization that the entire situation I was in, including my relationship with Jo, was not meant for me. I was so thankful that Jo’s family was there for me, but Jo and I weren’t meant for each other. Of course, even though I knew this, it was still hard to see him moving on. We were 18 years old with a child together, and I really didn’t know how to understand what I was feeling or properly cope with it.
The second experience that comes to mind was feeling so incredibly alone during my pregnancy with Lux and being physically alone a lot of the time. I believe Lux's dad was my first true love... I know, weird, when I had two kids with two other people. But this is my life. I This was my first REAL heartbreak, where I loved someone and was IN love with someone. And I felt so abandoned during such a vulnerable time. Breaking up with Isaac and Lincoln’s dads was upsetting because I felt like my kids lost the family aspect that I craved so badly for them. But this was different... It’s so hard to explain the different feelings involved.
7. How do you manage 3 kids when on a solo outing?
I definitely have good and bad days like most moms. I won't say it's easy, because it's not. However, when I have things to get done out of the house, I just bring the kids with and do it. I literally had to hold Lux yesterday when I went to the lady doctor. The older two fight sometimes, but they are always willing to help with the baby even when I don’t ask and I appreciate them so much for that.
8. How would you feel if the current Teen Mom 2 season was the last for you?
It would definitely be an adjustment since we are so used to the cameras being a major part of our lives, lol! But I got my degree in preparation for the day we are no longer on Teen Mom. I'm ready to explore other directions and jobs to provide for my kids.
9. What are your plans for your YouTube Channel, Kail and the Chaos?
I would love to be able to continue sharing the happy and fun times you don’t get to see on Teen Mom with you guys! I didn’t realize how much work actually goes into a YouTube channel, LOL! We’re filming and editing when we can though. I'll keep you guys updated!
10. What is on your bucket list?
My dream is to travel! Ideally it would be every other week when I have the kids, but as every parent knows, travel with kids is expensive! My current list of travel destinations is Egypt, India, Thailand, Australia, Brazil…really all the places lol.
11. Will you encourage your children to go to college?
I think I’ll encourage it since education is everything these days, but I also know college isn’t for everyone. Everyone has a different path they are meant to travel, and I just want them to be happy in life. I can’t wait to see what they decide to do! I definitely want to encourage my kids to find their passion and happiness in whatever they do.
12. What was it like traveling through Europe alone? Were you nervous?
I was more lonely than nervous at first. I did meet a handful of people that I’ll never forget, and made some amazing memories! I cannot wait to go back and explore what I didn't get to see. There's seriously so much over there.
13. Do the boys ever ask about your mom? Do they understand the situation since they have grandparents on their fathers’ side?
My kids don’t ask about her that much, Isaac does more than Lincoln. I don’t feel like they’re missing out because they’ve never known any different. You can’t really miss something you’ve never had. They’re also so close with their grandparents on their dads’ sides and I’m so grateful they have those relationships.
14. If you could be cast on any show, what would it be? Why?
I would definitely do The Challenge on MTV or Naked and Afraid, I love those shows! I was so pumped when I saw Maci from Teen Mom OG was going to be on Naked and Afraid!!! So badass.
15. Do your kids get recognized when they’re out in public? How do they deal with it?
They do! I get so protective, mama bear comes out lol. I don’t really like when people approach my kids…but if it happens my kids are always nice and I try to keep it as short as possible.
16. What is one thing you wish people understood about you?
I’m not a character on a show; I’m a real human being who makes mistakes. I have this crazy life where I have to go through things publicly and relive and cope with the things I’ve done and mistakes I made months... sometimes years before they air. Please don’t be so harsh. I have definitely fucked up more times than I can count and I’m the first one to admit it. I would give anyone the shirt off my back and not many people understand that about me... Some of those close to me even take advantage of this.