You asked and @hayter25 answered, welcome to the first #haytertakeover !

Hello everyone, for those of you that do not know me I am Becky (with the good hair), and I am making my first guest appearance on Kail’s blog. We decided to switch some things up and have people ask me some questions and well... here are my answers…. Enjoy :)!


What is Kail best and worst habits? - @kailsteam
Best: I would say Kail’s best habbits are always striving for more for her and her boys
Worst: By far putting way to much trust in people … and cursing… a lot

How did you and Kail become friends? - @kailynlfans , @Morales_Dee
Well, one of my ex’s.

what is your favorite part about being friends with @KailLowry? - @smartashh_29
My favorite part about being friends with Kail has to be the connection that we have. We are such different people but we listen and communicate well with each other.

Where do you see yourself in 5 years? - @Lipstiick_lezz
Happily married, starting a family, and just enjoying life to the fullest.

What is one of the things you girls love to do when you get together? – @MHynes33
It is interesting because Kail is not a fan of going out, meeting new people, drinking, and well that’s kind of what I live for. We also don’t get to see each other often so when we do we love to just sit down and talk or do something with the boys. Basically every time it’s me giving Kail advice and her not taking any of it J

What is your fave show to watch together? And fave thing kail cooks? - @lizy_horan_13
We don’t watch TV when we are together, and now that I think about it she has never cooked for me.

What is your favorite thing about kail? - @ksuther29
Honestly, (when she is in a good mood) we just have so much fun together. We laugh and joke around and make fun of each other (mostly me making fun of her) I hit on her and she welcomes it with open arms.

How do you find genuine friends that aren't looking for publicity? - @srmcgivney90
I think that this was directed to Kail, but I will answer this for her. She does a bad job at it.

Funniest blond moment @KailLowry has had in your presence? - @smartashh_29
Her existence.

How does she handle all the negative comments from ppl? - @DawnFroehle
How does it effect you to hear the shite kail gets as her friend do you sometimes want to scream at theese people. - @JessicaFarnham1

Everyday is different. What happened that day, how she is feeling, what’s the topic of the negative comments. I have said it before, she is tough but isn’t bulletproof. Myself over the past couple years have completely blocked off any emotional reaction to people for the most part. It really comes down to their own personal issues they are dealing with.

Were you and javi friends and if so have you been able to maintain that friendship? - @nalosi2
Javi and I were friends. Through the divorce the dynamic really changed throughout the entire friends group and we no longer have a friendship at all.

Would you date a cop? Asking for a friend. - @Defendthed9n
If this is to me – I don’t discriminate, but I am happily taken.
If this was to Kail, I would go with no she wouldn’t.

If you could roommate with anyone, friend, family, celeb, who would it be? - @updatesonkail

When is she gonna have her own cooking channel - @brosario08
I know my snaps make me look like I am a master chef but all the credit belongs to Plated

How often do you filrm? Pros and Cons?
Thinking this is to Kail but I will answer anyways. I do not film often but then again I also do not see Kail frequently, which needs to change. Time to move to NJ Kailyn. Pro’s – I like making people uncomfortable on camera Con’s Kail complaining and them catching you picking your nose

Will your delivery be filmed? Is Becky going to come see you when you have Baby Lo. - @updatesonkail , @Jaytexbmoney , @KriistyHahn
No it won’t be filmed, and I hope to make it there for the delivery

Will the baby have your last name? - @TeenMomTalk_FB
Yes, the baby will be a Hayter .. just kidding.


What you all have been waiting for….


Are you two together? - @SydneyHysell
She wishes.

Have you & Kail ever hooked up - @Chelsdeboerfans
No, she wishes.

How has it been with everything going and everybody saying that y’all are dating? - @DArealmeko
Honestly, any girl I hang out with people always assume I’m dating or hooking up with them, even my parents, I am used to it.

Why do you two pretend to date when Becky has a girlfriend? Doesn't Leah get offended? - @nellzhater
But are we pretending? …. Leah is saint.

What’s your advice to all the ladies out here with mad crushes on you? 😍🙃❤ Are you flattered? Annoyed? Thankful? Xo. - @bbgirl_dee
Someone really made a twitter account just to say this. Keep the crushes coming ladies :) 


What did you think? Should there be a round 2? Comment below!


Cocaine and CaviART

You meet a lot of interesting people through social media, and through my scrolling I came across Millie's page, obviously double tapping every art piece she posts... you'll understand when you go follow her. Well! She offered to do a piece for me a while back so this past weekend my girlfriends and I took a mini road trip to Newark, NJ to meet her and pick it up! 

Final product! 


You can follow Millie on Instagram - @cocaineandcaviar and visit her website  

You can follow Millie on Instagram - @cocaineandcaviar and visit her website


So so thankful for Millie doing this for me and I can't wait to order one of the baby when he/she arrives! Now just to find a place for my new fave painting! 


Will update once I decide on its permanent location! :)

New Baby Must-Haves & Favorites

I am so excited about all the new baby things that I've gotten because it's been some time since I've bought cute baby things! I thought it would be fun as I've been sharing some of the cute gifts that I've gotten in the mail to round up some of my favorite things so far that I just love.  

You might have seen this wooden ruler on my SnapChat. I know so many of you loved it! White Loft has quite a few different wood options and even a canvas option too. I can't wait to get one for the nursery and for the new baby. 

Skip Hop's new bouncer is really something I am so excited about! I have never had a bouncer like this with the boys and it's so cool that you can have it at different heights. Skip Hop is definitely one of my favorites for the baby gear. They have so many great things! I can't wait to use them all. 

When I announced my pregnancy I shared these new baby books from Polka Dot Print Shop which I'm excited to document this baby with and remember everything about this pregnancy too. I might even get one for the boys because they have toddler and school aged books too. I love to remember those special memories. Isn't this black and white print great? 

How cute are these onesies from Twelve & Faye? I can't wait to try them on Baby Lo! I never have had milestone blankets with the boys so I can't wait to take photos with these milestone blankets from batz kids. They are just so adorable and of course, I love anything black and white!


Tell me below in the comments what are some of your favorite products or gear you bought when you had a baby? I want to know! 

Mother's Day Giveaway

With Mother's Day around the corner I wanted to do a little something special for those who might not be able to pamper themselves.  

  A few months ago I got some really cute necklaces in the mail from Tiny Tags and one of them, I never take off. It has my inrials KL engraved on it and it layers perfect with my other necklace I never take off. 


In honor of Mother's Day I've teamed up with Tiny Tags to give one winner and deserving Mom a gorgeous necklace (up to a value of $800) just so you can have something special this holiday.  

Most moms never get anything special for themselves or treat yo self so I wanted to help! 

To enter to win make sure you're following Tiny Tags on Instagram here and me too of course! Once you take a look at the Tiny Tags website, leave a comment below of which necklace you'd love to win! 

I'm wearing the 14K Gold Monogram necklace and never take it off! 

Good luck!! Winner will be announced on Friday! 

Graduation is here!

If you follow any amount of the show, you know I've been struggling to get through school and earn my bachelor's over the last 6 years... Yes, 6 years. Between teen motherhood, financial hurdles in the beginning, then moving to a new state, marriage, babies and divorce... and then of course just wanting to give up, I (barely) held on and I'm FINALLY graduating May 13! This has been an extremely long and emotional road for me and for my family. Yesterday my good friend, Jenn was sooooo sweet and did my graduation pictures with the boys and of course my baby bump! 

Here is the preview of our photoshoot! 
Email Jenn Glasser if you're looking for a photographer:


There are a select few people around me that have helped make this possible for me, they know who they are and I'm so thankful for them. I love you!

Week of Workouts!

These workouts were approved by my doctor, so check with your doctor for approval while pregnant!

So recently I started having some pain in my lat area when I was laying down - whether it's pregnancy related or not, I'm not sure - but I decided to try some of these work outs my coach put together for me to see if they helped and so far things have been much better. I need to spend more time on specific muscles each day... although lunges are not my favorite the day after. ;) The idea with these work outs (for me) is to tone through the rest of my pregnancy and not elevate my heart rate too much since I haven't been truly consistent since the beginning of the pregnancy. Whether you're pregnant or not I hope these help or give you some ideas when you're not sure! 

Day 1 - 

Warmup & stretch
Seated dumbbell press - 10
Lat pulldown - 10
1 min rest

Tricep Pushdown - 10
Bicep curls - 10
1 min rest


Day 2 -

Warmup & Stretch
10 dumbbell RDL (Romanian deadlifts)
20 Weighted (dumbbells) lunges
:30 second plank
Rest 1 min

15 Side lateral plate raises - 5 lb plate in each hand
15 plate front raises - 15 lb plate
Rest 1 min


Day 3 -

Warmup & stretch
12 single arm dumbbell rows
12 incline bench press
Rest 1 min
12 Dips off box
12 Ring rows


Day 4 - 

Warmup & stretch
21-18-15-12-9 Dumbbell cheat press
30 sec light bike after each set
30 second rest

10 step ups right leg
10 step ups left leg
:30 battle ropes
Rest 1 minute


Day 5 -

Warmup & Stretch
12 landmine rows
24 (12 each leg)  weighted lunges
1 min light row

21-18-15-12 Push press & RDL's


Day 6 - 

Warmup & Stretch
15's - EZ curls
8-10 inclined hammer curls w/ AMRAP drop set
10 1 arm incline curls

Partner curl ladder for 5 minutes

10 tricep kickbacks
20 box dips
20 tricep push downs

Interview in the Latest issue of cupcakeMAG

My friend Casi is the founder of cupcakeMAG and it was so much fun to be featured as a #momboss in the latest issue that just came out today! Head over to right here to read my entire interview as we chatted about mom life, school and the new baby! You might notice Beverley Mitchell and Christine Lakin on the cover -- who didn't watch 7th Heaven?

Here are a few of my favorite pictures from the shoot: 

Read my interview here!

Photos by Kim Flores 

Make-Up: Kristen Correia

Hair: Theresa Davis of True Expressions Glam Mom

Mug: Day 1 Creations

Raising My Tribe Tee: Little Adi & Co

The Stuggle is Real Tee: Love Struck Two 

How To Get My Look

I've gotten a lot of questions about my hair so I thought I'd get all the details from Nickole who helped me with my look during the live after show! You can follow her on Instagram, @jonesn2 and on Facebook she is Nickole Jones! I know so many of you asked on my snap how to get my look so here is just how she did it. 

1.  Wash and air dry hair add a mousse scrunching hair while drying. 

2. I suggest using Bumble and Bumble mousse. 

3. Once hair is completely dry wrap the hair around a 1-inch wand. 

4. I used T3 whirlwind trio 1inch attachment. 

5. Wrap the hair from the root to about 1 inch from the end.

6. Hold the end out from the iron so it doesn't curl. 

7. Follow that step on the entire head alternating directions( very important for fullness)

8. On the sides wrap the hair in a backward direction 

9. Give it a light spray with hairspray. I used Sebastian shaper in the white can. 

** alternating directions with your curls helps the hair to be fuller because all the curls don't become 1 curl

6 Favorite Quick Meals

You might not believe it but I love to cook! As a single Mom, I have to always think ahead of recipes that are quick, easy and kid-friendly. 

Right now I'm not really craving anything but I'm eating a lot of chicken and potatoes. I'm not a big breakfast person so when it comes to dinners, I love anything I can add cream cheese too and could never give up pasta. If you follow me on Pinterest here you will see I pin a lot of chicken recipes and easy go-to crock pot recipes too. I thought I'd kick off this week with sharing some of my favorites! Make sure you pin them for later too. They are all fast, easy and seriously the best with kids. 


What's your favorite dinner recipe? I want to try it! Tell me in the comments below! 

My Must-Haves Scents from Scentsy

It's no secret that I am obsessed with Scentsy and if you know me, candles and Scentsy are my favorite things in my home. Over the last few weeks I've gotten a lot of questions about my favorite scents and how many I have so I wanted to share! 

I leave mine on almost 24/7. I change them out every two days but let me just say this is not normal. I just have an obsession! Most people don't change them out that often! I have them everywhere too. I have 3 downstairs and one in every room and bathroom upstairs!

As for my favorite scents, it's hard to choose! But I seriously love the ones pictured below in my home. Cashmere, Sugar Cookie, Cherry Vanilla and Cedar Cider are just some of my favorites. You can grab them all on my Scentsy page here!


Do you have any favorite Scentsy scents? Tell me in the comments! They have some of the cutest warmers out now too. Head over to my page and check them out! Make sure you check out the cute warmers too. Read it now, pin it for later! 

What You Don't Know About Me

While you think you might know me from the few minutes you see of me on MTV each week, I thought I would share with you some things you might not know about me!  From pet peeves to all about cream cheese! Here we go....

1.) I read texts messages and I forget to reply.

2.) I hate talking on the phone. Please, just text me.

3.)  I add cream cheese to any recipe I can.

4.) First thing in the morning when my feet touch the floor I pee and brush my teeth.

5.) My favorite Spring drink at Starbucks is the pink drink - strawberry acai with coconut milk

6.) My biggest pet peeves! When people leave shit in the middle of the floor. When people don't keep their word on things they say they're going to do

7.) I don't wear a regular bra. I wear or a sports bra or a cami with a built in bra. I hate bras!

8.) I have too many sneakers to count. Too many sneakers!

9.) My first car was a 2001 Nissan Sentra.

10.) I'm a ranch girl, I hate honey mustard.

11.) If money and a job were no object, I would live in Hawaii with my kids.

12.) If I could only shop in one store for the rest of my life it would be Target.

What else do you want to know? Tell me in the comments!

My Pretty New Space

A few weeks ago my friend Casi from cupcakeMAG came over and we had a painting party. She's been helping me choose colors for my house and I am so excited to slowly be pulling it all together. I know everyone was dying to know all of the details on my living room so I wanted to share them with you. For anything in my house, I always shop Target, Wayfair, Pier 1, TJ Maxx or Marshalls. I usually just pick up things that I love!

Here are all the details on the living room:

Paint color in my living room and kitchen: Sherwin Williams Sea Salt

Couch and ottoman: Ashley Furniture

Fan: Lowes

Gallery wall framed art: personal photos and the others are from TJ Maxx

Fake Fig Tree in the corner: Pier 1

Curtains: Wayfair

Pillows: So Vintage Chic (the pineapple one you all were asking about!) and the faux fur ones are from Lowes

Here are some fun behind the scenes pictures. It's so great to see it all come together and be finished!

We haven't hung the ruler but Casi's heading down for a fun photo shoot on Friday so I can't wait to get it up. The ruler for the boys was from White Loft and it's so cute! As far as my candle warmers and candles all around my home I stock up from Scentsy! You can check out my page here and grab some of my favorites. Next up! My office and dining room.....and of course, the nursery. Casi already has big plans for re-designing all of my rooms and I can't wait!

Exciting News!

If you are reading this you most likely saw my post on Instagram about my EXCITING NEWS!! As many of you know my latest book Hustle & Heart is packed with not just personal advice but experiences for those making through life's challenges in not just mix of hardship but motivational messages. If you've followed me since 16 & Pregnant you know the challenges I've been faced with through the years. Hustle & Heart is a book I wrote for people just like me that have been through marriage challenges, career challenges, sexual assault, bullying, motherhood and more. It's a reminder that with a little bit of hustle and heart, you can survive anything. If you haven't had a chance to read the book please do. I got so many amazing comments the other night when I posted about so I wanted to say thank you for the support but also answer a few questions fans were asking. Before you leave a mean comment on my social media take a second to read it. It's still available for under $10 on and you can purchase the book and coloring book for under $20 -- total! You can buy it by clicking HERE. If you are looking to find my past books you can check out the Author page on Amazon HERE too! Make sure you stay tuned for upcoming events like signings for Hustle & Heart - maybe even a fun book party too!

In the meantime, I thank you for your continued support! For everyone who has purchased my books and followed me through the years. Before you take judgment on me please realize that this is my life and I am 100% happy; my heart is full. If you don't know me why don't you take some time to read my books which is just a peek into my life instead of judging me by the edits made on television. Just because of my decision this doesn't mean I won't graduate and my plans have changed. I still will continue to focus on school with my graduation in May, my brand, and my books.  If you've googled my name the past few weeks, the speculation of so many things have surfaced - no one knows what's true, what's false and what really goes on in my day-to-day life. Since everyone can't wait for the confirmation;  here it goes.

I am pregnant. I'm sad that I should have known that people in my life would sell me out before I was ready. Like any normal person, I want it to be a happy time. I wanted this to be a private time so I could be excited while not getting chased by paparazzi and bothered with crazy headlines. Please know this was a choice I made, I already know some won't agree but I've been showered with support by the ones I love since I found out. Why did I wait? I've had a lot of health complications leading up to this pregnancy and I was not ready to release such private information on my own just yet being that I am so high risk with this pregnancy. I didn't want to announce just to have another miscarriage and suffer through another grief.

Of course, I was filmed on the show saying I didn't want any more kids but I'm pregnant again. I know so many will have comments on this but here's the thing -- I didn't want to bring another child into a failing marriage. Shortly after I started having complications, the option of having more kids was almost taken away from me. When I started thinking long and hard, I knew I wanted more. This was the choice I made. This is the baby I thought I wasn't sure if I could have. I know this isn't an ideal situation but I know everything will be okay. And like I say in my book -- with a little bit of hustle and heart, I can and I will survive anything. Having another child is something I am so happy about and I just can't wait. My boys are so excited, those who love me are so excited, and I hope that everyone can just be happy for me during this time.

Does Jo know? 

Jo has been aware of things for a while now. He was one of the first to know because we can have adult conversations about things while he respectfully gives his opinions. We always share concerns and move forward.

Does Javi know?

Unfortunately, I never got to have a conversation with him about it.

Boy or girl?

While I'm almost half-way there, I've decided to wait until the summer to find out!

This is an exciting time for me and the ones closest to me. Tweet me baby name suggestions!

baby book: Polka Dot Print Shop  // baby blanket: Addison Belle

Dearest Haters

I've been silent for some time about all of the "talk" about me. Some of the comments on my social have been so horrible. It's frustrating to know so many are judging me by the 12 minutes they see me on television. There are two sides to every story. I refuse to sit here and bash the other person.  This isn't high school. Please don't judge me and bash me from the other side of your computer. You only know so much about my life and you don't know the whole story. Please stop bullying me over something you know nothing about.

  • What you don't see? You don't see me at school. You don't see me staying up late doing my homework. You don't hear about Isaac making high honor roll. You don't see me getting the boys in the car, getting them to school and then I head to school for the day. You don't see me coming home, getting their homework done, cooking dinner, doing baths and then working late on homework. You don't see all of the behind the scenes, everyday chaos in between the few minutes they show on the show.
  • An agreement was made, we are divorced. It's hard enough dealing with it but it's harder dealing with in the public eye. I will not sit here and go back and fourth.There are always two sides to every story.
  • I'm a Mom. I'm a Mom to two boys who I'm trying to raise the best I can. I'm a Mom working on my brand and business and I am so excited for the things to come in 2017. I'm a Mom going to school full-time. In May I'll be graduating with my Bachelor's degree is that ever discussed? No. Only the "bad" things I do and how "horrible" I treat people and what a terrible Mom I am. 
  • My boys are fine. They are happy. They are smiling. They are so beyond loved and they are just perfect.
  • I am fine with taking the bullets. I'm not airing anyone's dirty laundry and being spiteful because it doesn't benefit anyone. I believe in karma....what goes around, comes around.
  • Why don't I quit the show? The burning question. Because it's my job. It's what supports my family. It's what gives me income until I finish school. Do I think my time on the show is coming to an end? Yes. But until that time, I have to be on the show because it's my job and what pays my bills and gives me a house for my boys.

Here I am again setting the record straight. If you don't read my last post on this topic do yourself a favor and read it now right here. Please do not judge me. Before you leave a comment on my social media or tweet me remind yourself how would you feel if someone wrote that about you? You really don't know me. You aren't with me 24/7. You have no idea what I go through and deal with on a day to day basis so please don't judge me. I'm sure many of you would be really surprised if you knew all everything and I am sure all of those things will come out in time.

Now for those who have supported me I want to say THANK YOU. Thank you for understanding that I am a single Mom juggling it all. Thank you for supporting me. Thank you for believing me and letting me be an inspiration for you. Thank you for understanding how tv works. Thank you for understanding that you DO NOT see everything. Thank you for watching the show. Thank you for allowing me to be part of your lives. Thank you for the comments, tweets and DM's. I read them all and I'm so thankful for the support. I wish I could reply to them all but please know how much I appreciate them.

I hope everyone can read this and understand that I am HUMAN. I am a Mom. I am someone juggling it all. I am just like you.

"Be kind, for everyone you meet is fighting a hard battle."

Motherhood and Managing College

Throughout my childhood, school was always important to me. Even through my most trying times I could count on school to get me through my days and keep my mind on something positive. But as life happens and things change I wasn't able to stay on track and get my bachelor's degree on time. A lot of time and two kids later I found myself back in school. I love my kids to pieces but there's just something about talking to 2 kids under 5 all day that got me thinking about what I could do for myself again.After careful consideration, I decided to get back into school. Partially because I was bored, partially because I have an addiction to staying busy at all times and kicking myself for it later... but mainly because I want to beat the statistics for teen moms and show my kids a better life. So, what does a typical day look like with two kids and a full load of college classes? Here's the play by play:

   7 am wake up, dress the boys and brush teeth by 7:30, Get them to the table to eat breakfast, while they're eating, I quickly get myself put together so that by time I come down I get shoes and coats put on to get Isaac, 5, off to school by 9 am. While we're gone, my younger son stays with family until I get out of school around 1 pm. When I get home, both boys have to eat lunch, we play, take my 3 fur babies out, yes, 3 dogs. In between these activities are straightening up my house, any appts we have, and trying to squeeze in a workout at cross fit before dinner. Dinner is probably between 6-7 and the boys have to get baths around 7:30-8 pm and then put to bed. Once both the boys are in bed I thoroughly clean up the messes we made throughout the day and then sit down to do any assignments I need to for school. Mondays and Wednesdays my older son has swimming and every other week I drive to New Jersey to take my son to his dad's house. Oh, and every 2 weeks add an 8 person film crew to my life.

Full house + every day stressors + schedules + occasional filming = short temper fuse.

Luckily, I have amazing people in my life that support me going back to school and will do whatever they can to help me finish. Last semester, my marriage started to fail while I continued my day to day struggles with staying on schedules, the boys and maintaining my 3.92 GPA.